Course 5 : Activity 6 - Share Your Reflection
Think about a situation when your son/daughter did something that you disliked. You felt really bad/hurt about it. Now analyze the situation in the light of these: what they had done? Why did they behave/say in this manner? How did you react to it? How differently could you respond in this situation? Share your reflection.
Asking something which is not appropriate for them.they might have seen someone using it.then refusing to give to them n explain to them why I did not give them n when the right time has come then I will get it for them
ReplyDeleteDepending on the situation and circumstances, some parents react to their child's setback by comforting their child. Others may focus on what the child did wrong or worry that their child is not doing well. And in some cases, parents might become angry with their children.
DeleteWhen my daughter/son does something which I don't like I always take time analyze the situation and talk and correct them accordingly.
DeleteWhen my daughter/son does something which I dislike I always take time analyze, talk and correct them as required.
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ReplyDeletething which they do not do. They are getting angry at us. By explain them the best way we can make them understand and keep on guiding them from time to time
First of all I will try to find out the reason why my child has done such thing than according to the situation, I will handle the problem and I'll try my best to make my child understand my point of view and the consequence of such action.
ReplyDeleteIf my child ha done something wrong, I firstly question myself where did I go wrong?
ReplyDeleteMay be if I could have interfered earlier and detected the wrong doing my child would not have committed a mistake.
The solution to correct him/her is to sit and talk, make him/her understand the consequences of his actions. Teach him/her to reason and think rationally about how his/her actions could have an impact on others
Stay calm and ask the child exactly what happened and why did it happen. After hear it the child then only we can take actions which best suits the situation. Anger and punishment is not always the answer.
ReplyDeleteStay calm show them the right way.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all i will try to find out the reason why do they behave in the wrong way,then only i can take any action, i'll try my best to handle and make them understand and show them the right way with love and care.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I will approach my son/daughter in a healthy and friendly manner. Asked them about the situation and what is the reason that they have to behave in such a manner. After knowing the situation and the reason for their inappropriate behaviour I will try to solve the problem by making them realise that what they did is wrong and unacceptable and they shouldn't repeat it.All this is possible if we deal with them in a friendly, non-judgmental and emphatic approach.
ReplyDeleteFirst and foremost, I would think and ponder on what is the main reason behind the misdeed or the act.
ReplyDeleteTo know more, I will analyse the situation accordingly by asking and finding out what made the child to act that way and why?
Then only i will be able to comprehend and react accordingly. If the child deserves a good lesson or just by making the child learn his/her lesson by explaining and telling what is wrong and right and also providing some remedies on how to avoid such an act.
I don't have a child of my own yet, but my younger brother once shouted back at me when I had chided him for disobeying an older person. I said a few things to him and tried to make him realise what wrong he had done and also tried to make him understand how he would feel if he were in his shoes. Now looking back at the incident, I feel that there must have been some inner conflict within him or may be sheer ignorance that must have made him behave that way. I also feel that I should have continued to counsel him.
ReplyDeleteAs I had always been too friendly with my daughter, she never does anything without my permission and if in case she does then, I always try to find the reason behind her misdeed and make her understand that whatever she had done is not acceptable.
ReplyDeleteKids will do many things to hurt parents sentiments, like answering back, rebelling, being lazy and getting up late. These are just a few worth mentioning. Their behavior can go beyond our understanding.
ReplyDeleteBut having friendly relations with my kids has eased up any situation we encounter with them. This kind of behavior is normal for young teens as their are going through a transitional period in life which is hectic and life threatening for them be it physically emotionally, mentally etc. We just need to understand and be empathetic with them.
I would always let them know they have a very special place in our hearts no matter what. This would be my respond to any situation they might put us in, anytime.
As a father I experience such thing when they do such thing I felt guilty of my self
ReplyDeleteLosing patience is my weakness. But I try hard to hold back my anger and try to understand the situation
ReplyDeleteI would try to keep calm of myself and try to talk to my children and find a solution to their problems.
ReplyDeleteStay calm show them the right way because as a father I experience such thing when they do such thing I felt guilty of my self.
ReplyDeleteI try to stay calm myself and them and try to show them the right way when the anger is gone
ReplyDeleteKids will be kids, they will always do the things that they are not supposed to, my children are no different. There was a time when one of my daughters did something which I had strongly prohibited. I, naturally, reacted in anger; I shouted at her, not stopping to listen to her explanation. This resulted in more anger, this time from her side too. It took a long time for us to heal and come to an understanding. I realized later, that I could have been gentler with my response, I could have asked for an explanation, we could have resolved the issue without anger, we could have saved the tears and the harshness. This incident has taught me a lot.
ReplyDeleteI try to remain calm and show them the right direction.
ReplyDeleteSometimes when kids break a rule or go beyond the limit parents get upset. Parents love and care for their sons/daughters and couldn’t expect to be hurt by them. But there may be many reasons as to why their sons/daughters behaved in such a manner. Parents need to introspect themselves before arriving at any conclusion.
ReplyDeleteAs a concerned parent, I would call my son/daughter and have a friendly conversation by being empathetic, genuine, open-minded, good listener, and relating with the issues and problems faced by him /her.
This approach can go a long way in guiding and supporting our children to be in the right track.
Seeing them doing things that hurt and things that is expected that they will never do makes any parent angry and hurt but in this situation as parents they should always try to understand and find out what makes them do that before making any decision or before saying anything that will make everything even more worse.
ReplyDeleteAs parents we are the one who understand better for our children's behavior so when they did something which is against our will we'll have to correct them with love and in a polite way for them to understand and obey...we must give them one or two reasons what will happen to them if they continue on doing the same thing
ReplyDeleteI have an 8 year old son, if he do something wrong, I used to correct him with love and care, and then try to find out the reasons why he did it .
ReplyDeleteI try to stay calm and then ask them the reason and try to show them the right way and supports them to be on the right track
ReplyDeleteI will try to keep calm and ask first the reasons then try to guide them to be on the right track
ReplyDeleteI will try to keep calm and then ask them to reasons and guide them to be on the right way
ReplyDeleteIf my child do something which I dislike, I will first try to find out the reason behind it by talking with the child calmly and try to tell him/her the consequences and will try to guide them carefully in future.
ReplyDeleteIf my son/daughter did something which I was disliked,the important things that as parents needs to do is to talk to them, show them the important thing they need to do,encourage them to do something good and fruitfull especially for their bright future and make them understanding the important to live in good ways.
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ReplyDeleteIf my child did something that i dislike, I will try to find out the reason why she behaved in such a way, try to keep myself calm and make her understand that what she did was wrong, and then guide her in the right direction.
ReplyDeleteWhatever bad the child has done, there must be a reason or due to lack of experience. We should not show a knee- jerk reaction. Talk out, listen, try to understand, explain, tell what is wrong is wrong in a loving way. Let our yes means yes, no means no.
ReplyDeleteWhenever my children did something wrong, I never scold them but persuaded them gently and showed them the right way to lead a life.
ReplyDeleteIf my child does something wrong,I would feel that I lack something maybe in teaching good manners or maybe i don't scold her or him if they have done something. So I would talk to her or him and show that this is not the right thing to do.
ReplyDeleteIf my kid did something that i dislike, naturally i will feel bad but, I will find the reason why she behaved in such a way. I would keep myself calm and make my kid understand that what she did was wrong, and guide in the right direction with good values and understanding.
ReplyDeleteSurely i will find out his/her peer group , talk with some of them , invite them home and guide them ....show right direction...
ReplyDeleteIf my daughter did something that I disliked, I'll talk to her first and will find out the reason why she behaved in such a manner. Free and frank discussion will resolve the problem.
ReplyDeleteIf my son does something wrong which I dislike, I will try to find out the reason and make him understand that he should always choose the right path to lead his life and he will always get support from his parents whenever he needs.
ReplyDeleteAs a mother, I will try to find out the reason why my Son is upset, then only I will try to solve the situation.
ReplyDeleteI always try to find the reason and make her understan that whatever she had done is not acceptable and then guide her in the right direction
ReplyDeleteIf my child did something that he/she was not supposed to do, the first thing that pop up in my mind is question myself whether i had guide or teach them anything wrong then i will pursuade my child to tell me the truth and then try to teach him/ her what is right from wrong
ReplyDeleteShould be good guidance for the Children.
ReplyDeleteI will try to be calm and guide them in a right direction
ReplyDeleteWhen my child did something wrong first thing that comes into my mind is that whether I have misguided him to behave in such a manner. I would rather be calm in this type of situation, spend sometime, talk and make him understand that such behaviour is not acceptable and his parents will always be there to love and support him to make a right decision in his life.
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ReplyDeleteThe maths teacher entered the class carrying a briefcase, I thought she was leaving the school, and came to say good-bye.
As she kept her briefcase on the table, and opened , I thought she was going to show us some magic.
Out came the shapes, as she called out by names, 'sphere', 'cone', 'cuboid', and 'cube', again I thought she was going to build , build a dream house for us ....yes i saw there spheres, cone, cuboid, cube being errected like my dream Dream house.
Stay calm and show them the right way
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ReplyDeleteOne should ask them with a friendly approach why they have done like that and find out if the have any problem then show them the right way to behave.
ReplyDeleteDeal with the situation in a calm manner.
ReplyDeleteI would ask directly and tell them that I don't like what are you doing as I am not please with it. or else I have to threaten them by refusing whatever they asked ,and at the same time I will approach them in a friendly manner and advice them that it is wrong that they are doing.
ReplyDeleteThe first natural reaction of every parents when a child does wrong is ,anger, without reasoning. The rational way to respond to such behaviors is to approach them in a friendly manner and earn their trust. Trust and understanding are best ways to reach out to our kids today.
ReplyDeleteI am having a daughter who has a friendly nature.. She is outspoken..understanding..seeks permission..her only habit is she is impatient and that is disappointing.. She is being advice the results of being impatient that may cause a disappointment to her, later in life.
ReplyDeleteKids will always do and say things that might hurt their parents or even others but as parents I always try to make them understand the right and wrong and guide them in a right path of life
ReplyDeleteEvery child go beyond their parents' rule...it is their nature and we cannot blame them...As a parent we should have a good relationship with them so that they would feel comfortable to share their problems.we should be a good listener and a good observer.These two qualities would helps us to appreciate the child if he/ she is doing wrong and guide them through proper channel.
ReplyDeleteI stay calm and try to understand the situation and find a solution to his/ her problem.
ReplyDeleteI stay calm and try to understand the situation and find a solution to his problem.
ReplyDeleteWhen my child did something wrong , or things that hurt me or others , I used to discuss the consequences, of their doing, then relate their doing to stories, or examples of those who had gone through the same wrong doing, make them understand in a friendly approach.
ReplyDeleteThis brings back memory of my daughter's mistake as a teenager in her behavioral act with people around. After understanding the situation I explained her that if this behavioral act of her continues she might loose most of her loved ones.Things change after. Thanks to my friendly nature and timing as a parent.
ReplyDeleteIf my son or daughter did something which I dislike, I would definitely try to counsel and teach him or her what's to be done and what's not to be done.
ReplyDeleteWhen my son misbehave I feel bad but try to keep myself calm and talk to him politely though I try to find out the reason behind such behaviour but I make him realise that he is wrong and he shouldn't repeat it
ReplyDeleteFirst I will try to find out the reason.
ReplyDeleteSit and talk and make him/ her understand the consequences of his/her actions.
If my child has done something which I dislike ,than firstly I will ask her what is the problem and I will try to find out the root of that problem.Than I will sit with her and make her understand that that thing is not good for her.
ReplyDeleteJust stay calm and show them the right direction
ReplyDeleteAs parents we may react differently in different situations, we may lose our patience, yell at our children, but at the end of the day we reflect back on why, what made our children behave in such a way. Tried to find out ways N means to solve such problems
ReplyDeleteI will try to find the reason of doing it. I will analyse the cause and effect of the act and then make understand.
ReplyDeleteAs an Adult we feel that the young ones should always listen to us and respect us. no matter what the situation, and if it does not happen to our expectation we feel agitated and hurt. So it happens to me as well although not very often, where I also do get agitated and handle the situation in a way which I was not supposed to.
ReplyDeleteThings can be handled in a very different manner, as we are adults we have the capacity and the ability to understand the situation better. We can analyse why the child behaved in such manner and come up with a plausible solution to the problem.
Stay calm and show them the right path
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I I would like to ask why my child has done wrong things? So I will explain the reason which is not used to do and I will try to handle my best to solve such problems and show my child the right way with love and affection.
ReplyDeleteIt's very hard to believe when our child do something which we disliked it but in that situation according to me first of all I will see the situation n whats the circumstances... I ll make him understand n giving him motivation to be not doing again which ll be harm him/ her too in future
ReplyDeleteMy child did not always complete the work ,only half.This is because he/she was influenced by the other children. I got very angry and scold him/her. After sometime with love and calm I showed him/her the outcome of that mistake. My child understood and did not do that again
ReplyDeleteIt is disappointing when you child does something the hurt you, so in my case I would point out that I'm unhappy with their action. the best way to find out the reason behind the action is by asking them and not accusing them.
ReplyDeleteInstead of angrily reacting to the situation it would be wise to make them understand of their mistake and remind them it is not something to be repeated
I remembered when i was in grade 5, the student who sat next to me, would spray water at my socks everytime I got the correct answer.... I didn't even tell my teacher about that because I was too scared to speak... So but now as time goes, i Think the way he dealt, was because of the things he dealt at home... Might be because of his family or maybe hanging out with negative peers that caused him to act this certain way.... Hopefully he'll be able to correct his actions...✔️
ReplyDeleteIf our children mis behave or mischievous, proper counseling is needed, as the proverbs says that train up a child in the way he should go, and he will not depart when he grows up.
ReplyDeleteStay calm and show them the right path. When the anger is gone.
ReplyDeleteI don't have a child of my own but I think I would try to stay calm of myself
ReplyDeleteFirst of all instead of reacting impatiently in such situations I'd try to stay calm and talk to my child and know the reason for acting that way. After which I would tell that it was wrong to behave that way and try to lead show him the right path
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I try to find out the reason. Sit and talk and make him/ her realise the consequences
ReplyDeleteI just stayed calm,I tried to reason her misbehavior and helped her rectified her mistake.
ReplyDeleteAs I am quite friendly with my son, he always shares everything with me. Till now he has not learned how to hide secrets from me. In future if he does something bad that is not acceptable then with love,care and proper guidance I will have to explain why his deed is unacceptable whether it will have any negative impact on him or not and try to convince him that all the parents only want the best for their children.
ReplyDeleteI will try to find out why my child has done such a thing and I will make him/her understand my point of view.
ReplyDeleteChildren will always be children... There was a time that my niece argued with me for simple reason.. So here initialy even i got distracted and disturbed by her actions but later on I reflected on myself that I should talk to her nicely and calmly about the situation and so we concluded happily.
ReplyDeleteFirst we try to find out what mistake they had done?and why the did it? Then we take appropriate steps to correct the mistake without hurting their feelings ,condemnation,.show them the right way and reminder so that they would not commit the same mistake in future.Harsh punishment ishould be avoided.
ReplyDeleteIt is better to know first what they did and why they are doing ,after knowing the truth ,decision are to be taken what solution are to be taking to handle and cope up at an early stage.The best way is to sit and talk calmly with his /her and guide them what is right and what is wrong.
ReplyDeleteKeeping calm in situations where things are not going right is not easy. But it is our responsibility as parent to remain calm. When we remain calm and try to rectify the situation our children learn a very important lesson about life. They learn that mistake happens, own them, take responsibility for them and make every effort to correct them. Don't ignore the problems.
ReplyDeleteIf I found that my child did something wrong, first I always tried to remain calm as possible and then find ways and means to solve the problem and guided in right direction.
ReplyDeleteWe Always make friend with our childrents and give councelling if we found any bad behaviour .
ReplyDeleteIf my child goes on misbehaving, I calmly give him counselling,remain calm and show him the right way.
ReplyDeleteIf I have son/ daughter in that situation first of all I'll try to meintain calmness because if I react (as a parent) the situation might get worsened...and then patiently I'll try to understand their problem and search for the solution for the betterment of my children
ReplyDeleteStay calm, show them the right way with love and care and support them to be in the right track.
ReplyDeleteWhenever I am disappointed or hurt by my children's actions, I now try to calm my impulsive thoughts and restraint myself from giving them harsh punishments. My tactics in dealing with my adolescent children have changed immensely with time, situation and realising the delicate stage of development they are in. Listening to them and having an honest conversation always helps. As a parent I believe in giving proper guidance, acknowledging their worth, giving endless and unconditional love and support to guide them in the right direction.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I will try to dig out the exact reason of his mis behaviour. Then I will try to show him the right way with positive values & understanding
ReplyDeleteMany a time,my son is rude and angry in response to something I reminded him when he failed to it. I was hurt and wallowed in self pity. But I reminded myself that my son is an adolescent, going through stress and storm. So I found quality time to rectify the wrong emotions I had towards him and discuss the matter accordingly.
ReplyDeleteImagined my child copied the signature of parents in his monthly test copy to submit his teacher.
ReplyDeleteThe child did so as he was too scared of his fater ,who would beat him for not scoring good mark
I would keep self calm n ask who singe for him,seems not his father's.Then try to be close,interact n the child admitted.
The child has to be given fearless , stress less,free mind to achieve his goal
We are to give a condusive atmosphere and but guide him not to adopt any means overcome stress in such way,make him understand that those habit have to be given up else later it may turn to huge blunder
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Stay calm for a while .Take him for a lunch outside and there start sharing a story similar to his actions with moral lesson then after few days remind him of the story I shared few days ago and asked him if that story hurt him the way it hurt me ,then goes the treatment.
ReplyDeleteWhen our child do a mistake we scold them but we are to look into the matter from their point of view too... And we are to make them understand which is the appropriate behaviour but neither by scolding nor beating but with love we are to handle the matter
ReplyDeleteI will try to find out the reasons for his/her wrong doing through talk and listening to him/her patiently and guide in the right direction.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I will stay calm and approach in a healthy manners and ask what exactly happened and why. And to correct him/her I will sit and discuss and make him/her understand the consequences of the action. I will teach them to think how his/her action could have an impact on others.
ReplyDeleteIf my son change his behaviour and say or do anything wrong,I will ask him why he did or said like that.I will also check whether his friends had any influence on him.I will then talk with him calmly and give him proper guidance so he should not repeat again.I will also show him that he should trust his parents and share his problems with us so we will tackle any problem together
ReplyDeleteWhen my children did the things I disliked, instead of scolding and beating them which won't help them to be the best of their version, I prefer to make them understand the importance of their responsibility and guide them in the right way which will later impact their life in the right way.
ReplyDeleteIf my son/daughter did something which I disliked, first of all I will try to find out and try to know the reason. After knowing the reason for their inappropriate behaviour, I will handle the problem calmly, coolly and with understanding. I will also him/her just as he/she is.
ReplyDeleteChildren are children it is the the duty of the parents to study their behaviour , we should find them why they are misbehaved may be there is and influence of his /her friends ,we should find the reasons and give counseling and correct in the right time.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all we have to find out how grave was the wrong deed that the child had done. Then as parents we must show them that what they did was wrong and how it hurts the parents. Finally we show them how to overcome such situations and give them chances to mend their ways.
ReplyDeleteIf a child did something wrong it is because they want to follow their friends. At that point it is important to stay calm and ask the child the problem why did it happen. Then show them the importance of choosing the right way.
ReplyDeleteIn order to proceed, we must first determine how serious was the matter committed by the kid. Then, as parents, we must demonstrate to them that what they did was wrong and that it is detrimental to the family. Finally, we teach them how to deal with difficult situations and provide them with opportunities to change their ways.
ReplyDeleteAs I am a mother when my child do a wrong things ,it is my duty to guide and care them from mistakes and behave them in a responsible way.
ReplyDeleteWhen we deal with our own child, we forget our own childhood.
ReplyDeleteIf my children do something wrong, I will surely sit and talk to them first to find out the reason behind the wrong doing. Then will discuss with them elaborately what doing such mean and it relates with which sense organ. , moreover such actions can lead them where in future...
My job will be to inculcate values and moralities in them so that they can differentiate between right and wrong.
If a child does or behaves in an appropriate manner, the first step a parent should take is to enquire the reason behind the wrong doing. The child should be allowed to explain and then appropriate actions are taken.. Its very important for the parent to explain to the child the reason why their behaviour is considered wrong.
ReplyDeleteWhen children do something wrong ,we need to find out the reason why they reacted negatively.Then we need to solve the problem by keeping calm and guiding them in the right direction
ReplyDeleteWhat someone says and does may really hurt us. In such a situation, I need to find the reason why they reacted negatively.Then I try to solve the problem by keeping calm and guiding them in the right direction.
ReplyDeleteWhen such situations came it hurts as a parents but we as a parents have to control our temper and give some good advice and make them understand..
ReplyDeleteAlways I had been too friendly with my son/daughter, they never does anything without my permission. I would try tb keep calm of myself and guide them to be on the right way.
ReplyDeleteFirst and foremost, I would think on what is the main reason behind the misdeed or the misbehavior of my child.
ReplyDeleteI will try to understand and analyse the situation accordingly by asking questions and finding out what is the reason that made the child to act that way and why?
Then only I will be able to comprehend and react and try to make them understand and realize whether they are right or wrong.
First of all I will try to find out the exact reason of their mis behaviour and ask the child exactly what happened and why did it happen and try to solve the problem and show them the right path .
ReplyDeleteCalmness is an important virtue. First as parents we have to find out the main reason why my child misbehave in a way that is not appropriate and show them the right direction in Life.
ReplyDeleteIf my child does something wrong that I dislike, I will sit with her and ask her why she behaved in such a manner..After listening to her, I will make her understand and show her a right way with love and affection.
ReplyDeleteMake a child calm by sitting in a quiet place ,find out the reason/ cause of the child' s action and show the consequences that of his/ her action which may affect him/her in the future. The key for the adults is to remain calm and deal with a situation attentively and proper reasoning taking care not to hurt the sentiment of a child.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I would ask my child why he/she has done it. And later on, I will try to explain it in such a manner that what they have done is wrong. As a parent we should know the consequences of the child's behaviour and accordingly guide them in the right path.
ReplyDeleteSit and talk with the child on why did he/she misbehave, pay attention on what the child has to say as the matter can be solve by remaining cool and calm. After the discussion then scold a little and also teach the child if he's wrong, and help the child by being supportive if the child is facing any problems emotionally.
ReplyDeletefirstly, know and understand the reason what makes them do something wrong and irritating.
ReplyDeletesecondly, counsel them or showing and teaching them the right way and not to repeat the same mistakes.
It was a year ago, I remembered asking my son to fetch some tools but intentionally he disobeyed me.At that moment, I got angry and scolded him.
ReplyDeleteI came to know later on that it due to his hectic school work which made him disobey.
I felt guilty and shouldn't have reacted the way I did without realising the real situation.
If my child misbehaves I will first try to find the reason behind the misbehaviour . I will try to understand and analyse the situation by asking question and then guide him accordingly.
ReplyDeleteWhen your very own children are doing something against the family norms...it hurts very badly... but as a responsible parent I cannot just ignore them altogether... Nowadays no matter how much parents are doing their level best to mould and shape their children to see that they come up well in life still we find that almost every family face the problem of children being indifferent towards them....since I've done and will be doing well for them.. I will never allow myself to grief I will always stand strong ,stay calm , anlyse the situation,talk about it,weigh the pros and cons ,give time for them to speak out, respect their decision and showing them the right direction that they need to go
ReplyDeleteIf my childrens misbehave which I didn't expect them , first of all I have to find out the reason. After finding the reason i can talk and make them to realise that what they had done was not good.At this point of time I think I have to show them that I am ready to hear , guide , support of their needs and care for them i.
ReplyDeleteUsually when our child did something wrong and hurt us with their misdeed we react.,get angry and in return hurt them back. But I feel that instead of doing that we should help them to realise their mistakes and guide them with right views.
ReplyDeleteMy greatest weakness is losing patience. Yet I tried hard to hold back in many circumstances, so that I can handle and analyze the situation , by asking questions and knowing the reasons then solved the problem and act appropriately in a friendly manner so that they can accept their mistakes and correct it
ReplyDeleteUsually our child always tend to do something which is not right. Seeing that we as a parent and teachers react. We get angry, summon them and in return hurt them back . But I feel in such a situation we should keep ourself calm. Try to understand them and guide them with right thoughts and views.
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DeleteStay calm and ask the child what happened and why did it happen. After hearing it from the child then only we can take actions which best suits the situation. Anger and punishment is not always the answer.
ReplyDeleteWhen our own child did something wrong,we first find out the reason, and tell them what they did was wrong and they had to ignore and forget what they have done
ReplyDeleteIf my child does something wrong, first of all as a father I will have to find the reason why my son / daughter doing such things , so when I found the reason , i wiil call them a d discuss with them in a healthy manner
ReplyDeleteStay calm and ask the child exactly what happened and why did it happen. After hear it the child then only we can take actions which best suits the situation. Anger and punishment is not always the answer. Things needs to be handled with care
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I shall try to find out why they have done it and try to find out solutions and advice them not to repeat.
ReplyDeleteAnalyse the situation and take wise decision.
ReplyDeleteInstantly, we may be very angry towards our children whenthey commit unexpected mistakes. However, when we think it over in cool mind, we obviously understand their situation of their age.
ReplyDeleteThere was a time when I left my son taking responsibility for his own studies without me bugging him. At the end of the day, he had done nothing but was glued to his games. Angered by his actions, I started yelling and shouting at him. This turned out to be a bad idea as he did not bother to listen. Then later, I realized my mistake and went back approaching him in a gentler manner,talking and counseling him in a friendly way about the need of studies,career and life,to which he responded very well and start sobbing,realizing his mistake.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I need to search myself, lest I have not taught and guide my child well and in a proper way or I have overlooked the behavioural change in my child.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, with love and in a calm manner I will approach my child and ask him/her the reason why and how she/he committed the wrong dees. Then I will counsel and guide him/her to the best of my capacity, that he/she will not repeat such act again but walk the right way
Yes, my kid did something that I don't like. So I told him that I'm very disappointed with him and want him to explain to me why he did it. So, calmly my kid told me that some of his classmates were pressuring him to smoke and when he refuse ,one of them called him a girl , he loses his temper and hit this boy. So this reached to the principal and all of them were suspended. So, I told him that if next time someone call him a girl ,just turn your back and count upto ten, you will find that your temper has disappeared. So one day when he return home from school he told me that he some of his classmates were calling him names and he did what I advice him to do and it is working. So I give him a big hug and said that I'm so proud of him. So now any problem he is facing he turn to me for advice and you can guess the rest.
ReplyDeleteAs parent they have to find out the reason why their children hurt them and do the thing that parent dislike and make them understand and show them the right directions.
ReplyDeleteWhen my children do something out of hand,as a parent I would scold them and at the same time ask them the reason for doing it and then counsel them .
ReplyDeleteThere are moments where you get angry / hurt. And reacting very badly . Happens . we are not perfect either ways. But overall need so see the child listens and don't repeat the mistake. Need to make understand the child later what things went wrong. Talking solves lots of problems
ReplyDeleteThey might have been influenced by peers . As a parent, i would teach them that doing such things is wrong by trying to make them understand that by doing so, it will ruin and damage them entirely while keeping in mind that they need support and guidance through love and attention.
ReplyDeleteMy son is a toddler and quite a handful. He is at the age where he explores everything around him and he doesn't know yet about safety or right from wrong. As a parent I lose my temper but I try to keep calm and explain what he did wrong or why it's not safe. If I'm calm , he's calm however if I show anger his tantrums increase. Kids really do learn by examples.
ReplyDeleteI should question a child individually, what could be the reason behind that behavior. Show a child what is wrong about it and guide to the right direction accordingly
ReplyDeleteWhen we ask something they do not do.They are getting angry at us .By explain them the best way we can make them understand and keep on guiding them from time to time .parenting is challenging and often emotional especially when our kids are defiant,dispectful or not who we wanted them to be we all have expectations for how our kids should grow and behave ,and when these expectations are not met it can be very painful.
ReplyDeleteFirst, I will find out the reason as to why he/she did such mistake.
ReplyDeleteSecondly,I will advise and make them understand the consequences of such acts.
It happens to me one day. I got so angry when one of my daughter shouted back at me when i told her not to go out with a friend who never listens to her parents. For some time, i was hurt and tried to cool down myself and later tried to make her realized and make her understand that she can be still her friend and make her friend realized her wrong doing. This act of mother and daughter bond us together stronger and understand each others needs
ReplyDeleteStay calm, try to find out every possible solution to their problem and provide them the best guidance and counseling when the need arise..
ReplyDeleteKids needs more attention and if I were to encounter in any such act that I don't like or which is inappropriate I would talk to them, spend more time with them and show them my love and affection.
ReplyDeleteI will first find out the reason why he did so. And them analyse the cause. Next I will talk to him in the kindest possible way I could.
ReplyDeletePersonally I realise that if i do something bad my parents would definitely be sad,hurt and disappointed on me and I could feel them that they are deeply so stress. Broadly speaking to bring up a naughty child an child who doesn't listen or care about their parents is a burden .
ReplyDeleteI remember 16 years before when my son was just 2 and half years old. One day he was irritated by something , in respond to that he scream some local slang words ! I was so shock that for 1 minutes I couldn't react. Then I got so angry that with a thin stick I beat him on his hands and feet. But still it takes time for me to correct him Then I realized from where would he learned these words when no one at home spoken such. Then I tried to find out whom he spend most in my absence. After finding out the influencers, I talk to them and never let my son mixed with them.
ReplyDeleteIf my children did something which is not right I will control my temper and try my best to guide them in the right direction
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ReplyDeleteAs a parent,there are situation where due to the actions of the child the parents have to be embarrassed. It is the responsibility of the parents to guide their children in the proper direction so that the child do not get misled by the false information. It is to be properly assessed by the parents.
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ReplyDeleteFor instance if my child spend most of the time with mobile phone and when we questioned about that many excuses will arise such as listening and completing the activities given by the teacher for the online classes.
ReplyDeleteSo as a mother I will agree with him but at the same time I will asked him to show each and every task given to him.
More over I can't discouraged from doing the tasks but I will suggest him when, where and how to complete the tasks. Besides studying i will assured him that as a student he should not confined only inside the four walls of his room but rest, food, games and exercise are also important for health, for without health nothing can be achieved.
If my child did something wrong I will stay calm and find out the reason what had happen .I will not punish him /her but instead I will try to solve the problem by making him/her realise that what they did is not acceptable.
ReplyDeleteThe first and foremost thing is to understand why a child has committed the mistake and where have I failed. I had pointed out his mistake to him and his teachers. Instead of reprimanding and inflicting punishment ,it is better to provide appropriate guidance .
ReplyDeleteFirst , find out the reason what had happen. Then solve the problem by making them realise of what they have done.Advise and guide them by showing the right way with love and care.
ReplyDeleteFirstly, try to find out the reason why they behave badly or do wrong way after finding the reason we can talk with them in such manner that can be change .
ReplyDeleteAt first I'll try to find out the reason of their behavior and then I'll try to find out the flow in myself if any and then I will talk and discuss about the situation with them.
ReplyDeleteIf they ask for something which is not so important at that time then I will explain the difference between 'wants' and 'necessity '.And if they do/say something that is not appropriate then I shall wait for for the right moment to find the reason for their such action and try to solve the problem through discussion.
ReplyDeleteAs a parent of a small kid, I found myself many a time in an a state of anger. But looking at their age which is still the age of curiosity to explore and learn many things, I feel I should try to explain and encourage them to do things in a correct way and should not always scold them for it could take away their dream of exploring and learning new things .
ReplyDeleteif my children do things against my will, first, i will clarify or make them understand why i am not happy what they have done.
ReplyDeleteDuring adolescence, children have a lot of problems with parents. If as a parent one recognises the issue at the root, then it is very easy to handle the situation and correct it.
ReplyDeleteIn adolescence, friends become very important and parents are like enemies for trying to restrain them and control their behaviour. But a good, calm, open discussion on what the child is going through settles the problem most of the time. It did for my child.
If my children did something which I disliked or which will really hurt me.I will have to introspect
ReplyDeleteand analyze the situation. What are the reasons that made them to do so.
I will have to maintain my calmness, patience and talk /discuss with them. Find out solutions to correct them .
First of all I have to find out the reason. Then try to guide them on the right way.
ReplyDeleteI would try to keep calm and encourage them to do something good
ReplyDeleteWhen son and my daughter had done something wrong
ReplyDeleteI am sure that i felt hurt and
sad,but I must observe in my
mind perhap it's my fault that I couldn't guide himor her in the
right path.Then I once again try to correct the way and advice them not todo again
that habit but to change their
action from bad to. good and
try to follow my councelling
Then they should find their own mistakes and at last
they could solve their problems and never continue
the bad action but start to
Respect and obeyed me.
I hate lies. When my children lie, it hurts deeply.
ReplyDeleteChildren lie due to the extreme fear of punishment.
I had always demonstrated anger and hurt whenever my children lie ; and calmness and appreciation when they speak the truth.I made it known to them from their tender age that there is no excuse for lying..and that the consequences of lies are drastic..whereas, there are many solutions when they speak the truth no matter how bitter it is. Over the years, I made sure that I helped and guided them out of difficult situations only when they tell me the truth.
I would not have responded differently than what i did because my children have now become good and responsible adults who hate lies too !!
I was shocked and speechless for sometime. Next day I spent my time to have a conversation and asked them if they had anything against me or with anybody. Then I console, prasing at the same time for the good acts and gave them good advise and examples.
ReplyDeleteFirst I tried to question myself in case I had committed any mistakes against them. Then I'll talk with them gently and give them advices to follow the conscience that can lead them to a better way of living.
ReplyDeleteWhen I find my son or daughter doing something which I disliked, the first thing I would do is to be with them and discuss about the matter thoroughly to find out the reason for which they had done. After knowing the causes of it, I would share and explain to them about the reasons and consequences of why I disliked them for doing such a thing. I would also let them know that I care for them and do not want them to go in the wrong direction which would harm their future life.
ReplyDeleteJust advice them everyday and always show goodness to them.
ReplyDeleteAt first got very angry and scolded them but later I tried to talk to them and make them understand that whatever they did was wrong and guide them in the right way
ReplyDeleteIf my child did something which I dislike, I will find the reason first then I will make my child realize that what she did was wrong. Then I will solve the problem calmly.
ReplyDeleteWhen my children did something wrong I felt bad and I would ponder whether its because of my fault that I didn't guide them properly. Then I will talk and counsel them so that they can get rid of the bad things
ReplyDeleteI will listen to what they have to say, try to understand their problems and correct them in a kind manner...
ReplyDeleteWhen my children are doing something which I disliked, I will find out the reason, and try to communicate with them in a friendly way, adviced them with lots of thoughtful words and also to appreciate them for telling the truth.
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ReplyDeleteI would try to find out the reason and would make them understand the consequences of their actions with a friendly approach so that they can relate and understand better.
We all make mistakes so all of us should learn from it.
First I will try to find the reason for such behaviour and try to resolve the matter in a cool and calm manner , by making them understand the repercussions of such behaviour. Anger and punishment is not always the right way to address all such situations .
ReplyDeleteWith this present scenario where mobile and internet has become the part and parcel of our life and so is the case of our children. My child is very young but I have witnessed the growing attachment to mobile and internet and less interested to have any social interaction with anyone. She becomes cranky at times when phone is being taken away. I tried talking and making her understand the negetive impact of phone with real examples or she wouldn't believe as now kids are smart they want facts and reality
ReplyDeleteStay calm and show them the right way.
ReplyDeleteTalk to them, try to find out the reason of their wrong doings, analyse them and ourselves as parents and show them the right path.
ReplyDeleteFirst asked my daughter why she did it. Then calmly correct her with love and show her what is right and what is wrong.
ReplyDeleteI would try to keep calm and encourage them to do something good.
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ReplyDeleteMy daughter had this habit of ordering food every second day she would exhaust all her savings (pocket money) to buy such food. I was at my wits's trying to explain to her why this was not only wasted of money but also detrimental to her health. She did not give value to the hard earned money that she was spending and this was addiction for her. However instead of trying to see my point of views she would retort and shout. She also wanted her pocket money tobe increased. I was very concerned that a young girl at school could be so money conscious. I tried to explained to her that she must understand the value of things, and how children of her age could not eat too squares of meal a day. She should understand the hungry and poverty and look at the unfortunate children who cannot get food everyday.
ReplyDeleteI was really annoyed when my teenager disobeyed me . I was very hurt and tried to analyse the situation .I knew that all the children do mishave sometimes but when it happened with me I could not accept it . Thinking over again and again for 2 - 3 hours I went to my teenager's room and asked him the reason for disobeying me .He replied that he was very sorry for disobeying me at that time because he had lost a football match in the school . So I smiled and made him understand that he should learn to control his emotions .
ReplyDeleteFirst of all I will try to find out the reason why my child has done such thing than according to the situation, I will handle the problem and I'll try my best to make my child understand my point of view and the consequence of such action
ReplyDeleteGrooming teenagers is a very tough task since foolishness is one of their criteria. Up bringing them need longsuffering and forgiveness since this period is quite turbulent. Treat them gently and provide counselling and guidance will help them become mature
ReplyDeleteWhen a child does something knowingly that it will hurt their parents,it calls for introspection and talking out with the child .It calls for counselling and guidance.Adolscents don't usually listen to 'I like 'and 'I don't like' but if explained why a particular activity is disliked,they usually respect that.
ReplyDeleteWhen a child does something knowingly that it would hurt his parents,it calls for introspection .It needs to be talked out without undermining the dignity of the child.When do's and dont's are explained with consequencesit becomes easier for children to understand.
ReplyDeleteKids always do what they do best and most of which we dislike at times...but that's their learning curve...but for grown ups we should sit, talk and ask questions with utmost love and care...sharing and understanding their anxiety and worries is the positive way of tackling the problem.
ReplyDeleteIf my son/daughter misbehaves, firstly, I should be composed and control my anger. Then, I will find out the reason of misbeviour, not to forget self-introspection too. After knowing the cause, I will gently talk to him/her, and give proper counselling and guidance, so that such misbeviour is not repeated in future.
ReplyDeleteAs I am not yet a parent, so I present a hypothetical situation - A child has not told parents about his/her low test marks.
ReplyDeleteReaction - Initial anger , thinking why the child had not told the truth.
Action - In such a situation, discussion with the child is very important. Let the child kno that, as parents, they needed to know about the test marks and hiding facts would not solve any problem. The child should be given the opportunity to place his/her reason. Patient listening to the reason is equally necessary. Assure the child of help and show concern and guide them affectionately.
As a parent ,I do get angry at that moment.But ,to shape and mould them in the right path ,I try to put myself in their shoes. By doing so I try to improve myself in dealing with such situations with understanding.
ReplyDeleteI was really hurt and angry when my teenaged son once answered me back very rudely while reasoning out with him. I ignored him for 2 days for he did not have the courtesy to ask for forgiveness. Realizing his mistake, he later came to say sorry.
ReplyDeleteThrough experience, I found that one should act according to the situation. No doubt, being friendly, talking and reasoning out, being emphatic to their problems is very helpful but not in certain situations .Teens sometimes despise too much talking and show of concern from a family member as they want to be independent and be treated as an adult.